Cohabitation Nation

Tuesday, April 13, 2004

Cohabitation, not marriage, but no more crown either way for Miss India |

"Miss India loses her crown over wedding white lie," reports The Telegraph:

But less than 12 hours after receiving her crown, a rumour began to circulate that would cost the 23-year-old her title. "Miss" India, it was alleged, was actually a "Mrs".

The country gasped. Beauty contests are taken very seriously in India and the scandal became front-page news.

The truth, when it emerged, was less juicy, but revealed much about the hypocrisy of social mores in modern India. Miss Pandit was not married, but confessed to having pretended to be so in order to rent a flat in Bombay.

It was the kind of white lie that thousands of young Indians tell to rent property in a society that still frowns upon unmarried couples "living in sin".

Even so, the story caused consternation, highlighting the gulf between the reality of young people's lives and the charade demanded of them by tradition.

Most grating for many young Indians is the hypocrisy that requires them not to show open affection or acknowledge relationships - even though their friends and often families know full well what is happening.

“Compellingly written, this should quickly become a mainstay resource.” -Booklist |

Congratulations to my friend Abigail Garner on the publication of her groundbreaking book, Families Like Mine: Children of Gay Parents Tell It Like It Is, which couldn't be hitting the shelves at a better time. As debates about same-sex marriage and parenting rage on, the world is going to be hearing a lot more from Abigail. Further reading in today's Hartford Courant [annoying registration process, made easier if you already have a password from another Tribune-owned newspaper].


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