Cohabitation Nation

"I don't know how people got married before living together first" | Posted 7:11 PM

December 1, 2004: The 2003 Census numbers are out, and unmarriage is on the rise!

Cohabitation Organization | Posted 8:25 PM

The Alternatives to Marriage Project, a national organization on the front lines of debates over cohabitation, is holding a Double Dare Campaign.

"Peaceful cohabitation" with... 700,000 bees. | Posted 9:21 PM

The AP reports:

"Lake Worth, Flordia resident Norm Gitzen didn't mind the more than half a million bees living in the roof of his house.

Rather, he said, they were "kind of mesmerizing," and he often sweetened his morning coffee with honey dripping from the hives.

But when the bees started coming into the house, stinging him and his nephew, his love of that cohabitation changed..."

It's coming! It's coming! Craigslist in Albany, New York! | Posted 10:14 PM

Great news: Albany has appeared in the craigslist list of future cities. My offer to Craig Newmark still stands. In fact, in honor of this occassion, we'll extend it as well to the first Craiglist staffer who emails.

Anyone else with an interest in cohabitation, you can buy a copy of Unmarried to Each Other: The Essential Guide to Living Together as an Unmarried Couple, here.

Korean Food in Western Massachusetts | Posted 9:55 PM

D and I unexpectedly discovered another excellent Korean restaurant today: Gohyang at 111 Russell Street in Hadley, Massachusetts (413-586-2682). In addition to delicious vegetarian bibimbap, we got to entertain ourselves by reading walls covered in the signatures of local college graduates.

For those worried this blog is turning into the Korean food equivalent of EatLA, be reassured: we'll return to cohabitation soon.

Palmermix | Posted 11:15 AM

I am sad to report that Palmermix is dead. Long live Palmermix! Congratulations to Palmermix's founder, MIchael Palmer, on his new job, though.

Congratulations | Posted 12:31 AM

Good news on many fronts:

Congratulations to my friends Gail and Betsy, Robyn and Peg, Liz and Amanda and hundreds of other couples on their legal marriages in Massachusetts.

Congrats to Abigail Garner for the well-deserved coverage of Families Like Mine: Children of Gay Parents Tell It Like It Is.

Congrats to Lockhart Steele on The Villager profile, that captures the great essence of LS so well, as in: “I like cranking out words"; "I still lament its demise"; and “It’s just a fun little world.”

Time to leave the "sidelines of our democracy" and register to vote | Posted 4:21 PM

More on the unmarried vote: "Heads of households are becoming increasingly unmarried. In the 1950s, 80% of households were headed by married people, now it's a 50-50 split. There is a whole growing group of people on the sidelines of our democracy. The numbers literally jump out at you," says Page Gardner.

Cohabitation Vote: Now is the time to register | Posted 11:57 PM

Want to see change in the U.S.? Collectively, the voice of 86 million unmarried adults can help bring about a world more supportive of family diversity. Once election day arrives, it'll be too late to register to vote. If you're not already registered, it's quick and easy to do so today.

Asexual cohabitation? | Posted 11:05 PM

I stumbled across the Asexuality Visibility and Education Network tonight and was surprised and impressed by how much the asexual community has grown. Founded by a Wesleyan student, the site boasts active message boards and an informative FAQ. Further reading here and here.

Cohabitation, not marriage, but no more crown either way for Miss India | Posted 9:29 PM

"Miss India loses her crown over wedding white lie," reports The Telegraph:

But less than 12 hours after receiving her crown, a rumour began to circulate that would cost the 23-year-old her title. "Miss" India, it was alleged, was actually a "Mrs".

The country gasped. Beauty contests are taken very seriously in India and the scandal became front-page news.

The truth, when it emerged, was less juicy, but revealed much about the hypocrisy of social mores in modern India. Miss Pandit was not married, but confessed to having pretended to be so in order to rent a flat in Bombay.

It was the kind of white lie that thousands of young Indians tell to rent property in a society that still frowns upon unmarried couples "living in sin".

Even so, the story caused consternation, highlighting the gulf between the reality of young people's lives and the charade demanded of them by tradition.

Most grating for many young Indians is the hypocrisy that requires them not to show open affection or acknowledge relationships - even though their friends and often families know full well what is happening.

“Compellingly written, this should quickly become a mainstay resource.” -Booklist | Posted 8:22 PM

Congratulations to my friend Abigail Garner on the publication of her groundbreaking book, Families Like Mine: Children of Gay Parents Tell It Like It Is, which couldn't be hitting the shelves at a better time. As debates about same-sex marriage and parenting rage on, the world is going to be hearing a lot more from Abigail. Further reading in today's Hartford Courant [annoying registration process, made easier if you already have a password from another Tribune-owned newspaper].

"Am I to read this as an imposition of abstinence on prospective foster parents who are not married?" | Posted 2:43 PM

First North Carolina, now South Carolina.

Cohabitation in North Carolina | Posted 6:47 PM

Ryan Bakken, if you think North Dakota is bad, try North Carolina:

WILMINGTON, N.C. -- An unmarried couple who are the parents of a 2-year-old child are facing the threat of separation because the woman is on probation, and cohabitation is illegal in North Carolina.

Melissa Sheridan said she and her boyfriend, John Finger, moved to North Carolina a few months ago from New York, after she paid restitution involving welfare fraud and was put on three years' probation. She has about two years to go.

New York allowed her to leave with the assumption North Carolina would supervise her probation. But, Sheridan said, North Carolina has refused because she and Finger are cohabiting, which violates state law.... [Read more]

Marriage Boycott | Posted 10:20 PM

Since I spend a good part of each day emailing and talking with people who choose not to marry and the reporters who want to interview them, it's often hard to tell the difference between a widespread cultural trend and whatever is on the mind of AtMP's constituency at the moment. But then, every so often, I'll get a string of emails and calls that fit together the pieces of the puzzle very clearly. Now there's no question in my mind this is really happening: there's a Marriage Boycott underway. The question is-- how many people are actively involved, or at least talking about it? Is it thousands or tens of thousands or more? How fast could it grow? We'll find out.

Cohabitation Vote | Posted 9:48 PM

Could unmarried women swing the election? "If unmarried women voted at the same rate as married women, there would be 6 million more voters in the electorate," Marla Romash, a former Gore campaign aide, told Newhouse News Service. Read about it here, here, and here.

Korean food in Baltimore, MD | Posted 10:35 PM

If you enjoy Korean food and find yourself in or around downtown Baltimore, I highly recommend Soo's Kimchee House on 11 West Preston Street (410-234-1377). Soo's vegetarian bibimbap is the best on the East Coast, and on a visit there this past weekend, she shared with me equally delicious green-wrapped dumplings and kimchee. I haven't asked her opinion of cohabitation, but I'm sure she'd serve any unmarried couple with pride. Further reading in the Baltimore City Paper.

"Thank heavens, cohabitation law is at issue again." | Posted 6:07 PM

Ryan Bakken is again on the front lines of the cohabitation debate in North Dakota.

Previous Bakken:
"He opened the door ... and this unmarried couple was cohabitating, right there on the floor."

"The cohabitation vote... didn't divide legislators into camps of those who had high morals and those who didn't. It divided them into two different categories - the brave and the cowardly."

"Marriage may be in decline, but its value as a brand lingers on." | Posted 11:36 PM

Frank Rich's column, "What's Love Got to Do With It?", is one of the best pieces I've read recently. As for cohabitation, LS offers this link.

Marriage promotion discursive explosion | Posted 7:31 PM

The paper of record runs a story about marriage promotion on its front page, and the country is abuzz. I had the chance to offer my two cents on CNN on Wednesday. Further reading with Mark Morford; Michelle Cottle; The Dallas Morning News (annoying registration process); Andrew Cherlin; Daniel Lichter; and, of course, Let Them Eat Wedding Rings.